How Becoming a Mother Transformed My Relationship With Money


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Becoming a mother has completely changed my relationship with money. It has been a journey of re-evaluating what is important to me and my family and making different choices in order to align our values with our actions. It has not been easy, but it has been worth it.


In this post, I want to share with you how becoming a mother has transformed my relationship with money and offer some advice for others who may be going through a similar transformation.

How I used to view money

I used to view money as a way to buy things, impress people and make myself feel good. I thought of it as a scarce resource that needed to be hoarded and protected. I was always anxious about not having enough and was always looking for ways to make more. It constantly felt like a rat race and was thoroughly exhausting.


Not only did I work too much for too little money, I barely had any time or energy left to spend quality time with my family. I wanted to be there to watch my kids grow while also generating enough income to provide my family with the lifestyle we desire.


How my view of money changed after becoming a mother

Becoming a mother completely changed how I viewed money. In the past, money was all about acquiring things – nice cars, big houses, designer clothes. But once I had my first child, I realized that none of that mattered.


What mattered was being able to provide my child with the best life possible and ensuring that she was happy and healthy. That’s when I realized that money is meant to be spent, not hoarded. It’s a tool that can be used to improve our lives, but it’s not the end goal. And that’s a perspective that I’ll carry with me for the rest of my life.


As a finance professional, I help people create wealth, having kids helped me see wealth differently. Yes, it takes money to live in our world, but true wealth is a lot more than money, it's all about living according to your values.

Why I Changed the way I handle money

I wanted to be able to provide my daughter with everything she needs and wants, and I knew that wouldn't be possible if I kept living paycheck-to-paycheck.


Another change I made was to start evaluating purchases more carefully. In the first few years, I realized how much stuff I had accumulated and how materialistic life can become. I decided I wanted to have less things and live more minimally. I ended up selling a ton of household items I felt were just cluttering my life.

I realized that I wanted my daughters to see me handle money in a way that was positive and empowering. I didn't want them to grow up feeling like money was something to be scared of or ashamed of.


So I began to change the way I thought about and handled money. I made a conscious decision to change my work so that I have time to present for my children. And it's made a huge difference in my life. Now, I have more control over my finances and I feel more empowered than ever before.

How my view of money has positively affected my family

Becoming a mother made me realize the importance of money and its role in our lives. It's not just about having more or less, but using money in a way that's beneficial for our families.


I'm now more mindful of how I spend, save and generate money, and my children have learned the importance of financial responsibility at a young age. We're able to discuss money matters openly, which has resulted in a much healthier relationship with it.


In a way, becoming a mother has helped me to become a better steward of my family's finances.


Becoming a mother was a life-changing experience for me in more ways than one. In particular, it transformed the way I view money and changed the way I handle it.


After becoming a mother, I realized that I wanted my children to learn how to be responsible with money and how to appreciate the value of it. I started making changes to the way I handle money in order to teach my children these things, and the changes have had a positive impact on my family as a whole.